I have a few friends who are currently pregnant. A couple of them are beyond the point of keeping it a secret, but one is newly so, and I am SO FREAKIN’ EXCITED I just can’t stand it. Anyhow, recently a couple of other moms and I were talking to one pregnant friend about how to be discreet in that first trimester, or however long you’re waiting to share your news.

I thought I was fairly discreet by just casually not drinking in those early weeks, but apparently many of my friends were suspicious… “We knew something was up when YOU weren’t drinking!” Gee, thanks! I mean, I know I live in beer city, and my girlfriends and I have been known to enjoy the occasional wine night, but was it really that unusual for me to decline an adult beverage?!? To be fair, most of our friends did know that we were trying to conceive, so they had reason to be be wary.

This shot was taken just a few days after we found out that I was pregnant. Shhhhh!

There are a few things you can do if you’re pregnant and you find yourself in a situation where you’d normally have a drink or two, like a holiday, concert, party, work function or just a normal afternoon at a local brewery. I did most of these when I was pregnant at one time or another, as we waited quite a bit beyond our first trimester to make it totally public, though at some point we started gradually telling close friends as we saw them. We made sure to tell those who know early that it wasn’t “Facebook official” yet, as there were people we wanted to tell in person or by phone, in a more personal way than finding out from a friend of a friend’s post that they tagged us in or something.

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